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Del H. Morrill: Ask Del "FEAR OF TRAVELING""FEAR OF TRAVELING" Del H. Morrill, B.S., C. Ht., Email: Web Site: I thank Del Morrill for permission to put "Ask Del" on my website with the understanding that I would follow it with additional material as complement to what Del has written.

Dear Del, I have a problem that I am not able to solve. Although I can drive my own car, I am not able to get into any vehicle that I am not driving myself. I had a car accident in 1990 and since then things are going for worse; although it started with cars, now I can't get into taxis, buses, airplanes, trains, ships. This has really ruined my life. Will hypnosis help me? I appreciate you writing to me about your travel problem. This is not an uncommon response after having had an accident. The fact that you are okay when you drive, confirms to me that your real issue is feeling at the mercy of someone else, and therefore, feeling in less control of your situation. Being a passenger means relying upon someone else to determine your destination, and your very destiny, so to speak. Hypnosis can definitely help you get over this fear.

Any person would be nervous after an accident, especially in getting back into a car (or whatever other vehicle was involved). However, this can be true also for some people after hearing or reading about airplane, train or boat accidents. In other words, someone does not have to have been present in the situation to begin to fear it.

The problem comes when the fear about traveling doesn't let up after a few weeks, or even months, and becomes a phobia. This is when normal activities become affected adversely; and just the thought of traveling provokes fear. Some travel-related fears lead many people to go to extremes to avoid the fearful mode of travel. This can be very embarrassing and limiting to individuals who want to be able to see friends and enjoy other places besides their homes. Now, how can hypnosis help you overcome your fear of traveling? To begin with, the hypnotherapist helps you develop calmer, more appropriate responses by working toward a relaxed and focused state of mind. At this level, your own inner resources are more available to conquer the fear.

In mild cases of travel nervousness, hypnosis can replace the old fear-based program, slow the heartbeat and respiration, promote clear-headedness, and overcome the sensations of escalating loss of control. In more severe cases, hypnosis can seek the true causes of the fear in a relaxed and focused hypnotic state. The fear had locked in at some point in time. Since the unconscious part of the mind has no timeline, that part of you is not aware of time having passed. Thus, the experience is still "happening" whenever you get near a vehicle. So, hypnosis can also release the memory of the incident that had created the fear in the first place.

Meeting and facing the fears of traveling by working through the subconscious (or unconscious) mind where the fears reside, can assist you in dealing with the them, thus "curing" your phobia and making it possible for you to travel again. So, as soon as possible, find a hypnotherapist who handles fears and phobias, and have fun traveling.

FLYING FREEDOM: PAUL GUSTAFSON: (for picture go to Durbin’s previous items of interest)

[Paul Gustafson RN, BSN, CH runs Healthy Hypnosis of Burlington, Massachusetts. He has ten years of nursing experience and eight years specializing in the field of hospice nursing. His medical and hospice experience offer a solid foundation supporting his clinical approach to hypnotherapy. Healthy Hypnosis is ] What would you say if it was possible to comfortably shift your approach and response to what scares you most? In short order you could easily transition from white knuckle stress to pleasant memories of your carefree childhood anytime you chose. You have remarkable abilities to profoundly change how you view the world and to control the effect it has on you.

"It's okay to fly, I know I can fly." No matter how many times you repeat these words you still can't imagine yourself ever getting on another airplane again. You know all the statistics. You know flying is 29 times safer than driving. Since the tragic events of September 11th airport security is better now than anytime in our history. "It's okay to fly, I know I can fly." Nothing changes you still can't do it.

President Bush continues to urge us all to get on with your lives. You consciously understand that the economy depends on us to resume traveling and return to living your lives as free Americans. You intellectually know the importance of not giving in to fear and letting the bad guys win. However things have changed and you just can't get beyond your primal fear of flying. In a short period of time this fearful message has been deeply planted into your subconscious mind. Messages go from our conscious to subconscious minds all the time. The conscious mind decides and evaluates what gets stored. Once a value is accepted and sent back it can grow and become a pattern for life. The repeated viewing of airplanes flying into buildings was intense enough to send this fearful message on a direct express route to your subconscious mind. This warning message saying: "NOT ME, NO WAY, NOT NOW, NOT EVER!" With each passing day this message was reinforced every time you turned on a television. No matter how hard you try you know in your heart it will never be the same. The subconscious mind is like a greenhouse. It gets a delivery from the conscious mind and its job is to store, nurture and grow. In a greenhouse you can easily grow beautiful roses or poison ivy with the same level of success. If the conscious mind delivers some bad information it is still received with open arms. Messages like: "Smoking is cool and sexy," or "Burgers and fries are good for my body," or " If I fly again I will surely perish." Not only have you endured the recent tragic events in New York, Washington and Pennsylvania but you also learn that this new fear of flying is rooted deeply in your subconscious mind and is with you for life.

People routinely try to consciously make changes in their lives with issues like smoking, weight loss, public speaking and athletic performance. Results are inconsistent at best. It's like weeding your garden by clipping the weeds off at ground level. It looks good for a while but they always grow back. Hypnotherapy is the only way to get to the root of the pattern, pull it out and replace it with healthy positive solutions. With hypnotherapy you relax your body and conscious mind while opening your subconscious. Once in the subconscious you can rearrange the furniture and put your house back in order. A hypnotherapist creates this deep relaxation, offers suggestions and affirmations which support your rational thought, creates a way for you to instantly relieve stress at anytime and maybe even takes you on an imaginary flight which has you composed, comfortable and in control. Once this blueprint for your flying success has been laid out the rest is up to you. Your fear of flying became a pattern because of your repeated acceptance of this suggestion. If habits are born out of repetition so are solutions. A good hypnotherapist will make an audiotape of your session and teach you the importance of reinforcing these new values. Many people report instant relief with hypnosis but by reinforcing the positive messages daily for about a month you position yourself for long term success.

Hypnosis is not new; the AMA accepted it in 1958. It is used in hospitals, clinics, in professional sports and fortune 500 corporations. It has no side effects, it feels good, there are no prescriptions, no interactions and once you know how to do it, it's free.

The impact of September 11th may have forever changed how we view the world. By focusing and absorbing the news of each day we may create new irrational limitations with how we live our lives. There is helpful relief to your fears and concerns. You have the ability to create order and peace in your life. You can take back control and keep it. Flying Freedom (2001 by Paul Gustafson RN BSN CH)


There are three main ways to deal with fears and/or phobias: 1. Symptomatic Approach, 2. Circle Therapy, and 3. Desensitization.

(2) The Symptomatic Approach. This approach works well with high direct suggestible clients. In effect, the therapist literally suggests the problem away. Example; "You are releasing your fear of dogs as you are becoming more and more comfortable when you see a dog."

By using this approach, no harm can come and it works with a small percentage of people. If the symptom recurs, it may indicate that the fear may need to be approached in a different way.

(3) Circle Therapy. Circle Therapy is a very successful therapy dealing with fear. It should not be used with phobias. In the hypnotic state, the client is led to feel the fear. As the fear builds and I notice an abreaction (a venting out which is reflected in facial expressions or body movement), I tell the client to "Feel it, feel it: now take a deep breath, blow out the fear and pass it, let it go, and you go ever deeper into the hypnosis state." I then give positive statements that the next time they feel more comfortable and in control. Again have them experience the fear, let go, feel better. Each time you make the circle, the fear and abreaction is reduced. When it is apparent that the client is letting it go, I say, "Feel it but the harder you try to feel it, the more difficult it becomes to feel it. In fact, you begin to identify an amusement about the situation. You begin to smile and feel at ease." If regression is used or not to find cause, a suggestion such as "Let go of the past, the past cannot affect you now, and the next time this situation occurs, you feel comfortable and relaxed."

Dr. John Kappas states that during circle therapy, the client faces his fear in a controlled situation of the hypnotic states,

1. Weakens the symptoms and allows the client to face it again once the abreaction has ceased.

2. Allows the subject to face the cause without experiencing the symptom. 3. Increases the subject ability to adopt.

4. Can relieve the fear of loss of control and the dread that fear will someday control the subject completely.

5. Helps remove the fear of facing the trauma alone.

6. Allows for a positive behavior to be substituted for a negative one. (4) Systematic Desensitization. Desensitization is very similar to circle therapy and can be used for either fears or phobias. The main difference between circle therapy and desensitization is that the client is not allowed to fully experience the situation. Using the finger rising technique, have the finger rise as soon as the fear begins to be experienced and let it go, feel calm and relaxed and the repeat. Visualize that you feel calm and relaxed when in a situation that normally causes fear.

In desensitization, I may have the client view the fear from a distance and suggest a feeling of being calm and relaxed. Next, I have the client come closer to the fear and letting go of anxiety and fear. I make a point to face fear in a normal way, because it may be a normal fear that has been exaggerated. To fear a rattle snake is a normal fear. To be so afraid of rattlesnakes that you can't visit your uncle who lies in the country is abnormal.

(5) Martha's Case History: Martha came to me with a fear of flying. I used a desensitization experience with her. Using a finger rising technique, I had her lift her first finger of her left hand as soon as she experienced any fear with the imagery being used. When her finger lifted, I asked her to take a deep breath and as she exhaled to let the fear go, feeling calm, relaxed and at peace. This would be repeated till the fear was released.

(6) Fear of Flying Desensitization: I had her imagine calling the airline and choosing a flight best suited for her schedule, packing for the trip, checking baggage, waiting for boarding, entering the plane, taking off, flying to her destination, landing, and leaving the plane. At each step along the way, when she felt fear, she lifted her finger. I told her to take a deep breath and blow out the fear, let the fear go: feel calm, relaxed, and at peace. We repeated this until was able to go through the whole process of event with feeling fear and she was able to face the fear in a normal way.