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Beware of False
Memories: Revised Chaplain
Paul G. Durbin">
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Beware of False
Memories: Revised Chaplain
Paul G. Durbin, Ph.D. |

Due to a rather stressful job as a nurse's assistant, Beth
Rutherford was having trouble sleeping. Her father, an Assembly of God minister,
suggested that she go to Donna Strand for counseling to help her deal better
with stress. Donna Strand was a counselor who worked at her husband's Park Crest
Village Assembly of God Church. After three sessions, Beth, then 19 years-old,
was doing much better handling her stress and was sleeping better.
During one of those sessions, Beth told of a dream in which
she and some friends were being raped in the presence of her father. She was
told that the dream was an indication of early childhood sexual abuse. Beth
could not remember any sexually abuse. Over the next 64 sessions with Mrs. Strand's encouragement, Beth began to record a string of
horrifying memories which she identified as occurring between the ages of 7 and
14. During her trance states, she experienced her father using a curling iron to
masturbate her, being raped by her father while her mother washed, and having a
clothes-hanger abortion by her father.
After nearly two years passed, the Strands informed the
General Counsel of the Assembly of God Church of accusations of sexual abuse of
Beth by her father. He was confronted with Beth's allegations and though he
denied that he had ever sexually abused his daughter, he was forced out of the
church. Mrs. Rutherford said, "We were just blown apart, in shock... You
think they have the wrong name, the wrong family." Rev Ruterford had a
vasectomy when Beth was four years old. Later when asked why he did not tell
church officials, he said, "I never told them because I was so personally
outraged."
At the insistence of the family's attorney, Beth underwent a
gynecological exam. It showed that she was a virgin. According to information
received during Beth's Recovered Memory Therapy, she had been raped repeatedly
by her father while her mother watched and had received a painful clothes-hanger
abortions. Beth, now a registered nurse, fully recanted her story. Due to the
fact that her father had received a vasectomy when Beth was 4 and medical test
showed that she was a virgin, it would seem that Beth had experienced false
memories as the result of Mrs. Strand's Recovered Memory Therapy. It is to be
noted that the Rutherford's settled a defamation and malpractice lawsuit for one
million dollars against the church and the Mrs. Strand. Beware of false
memories.
Betty (named changed to protect the identity of the client)
came to me with the presenting problem of "being caught up in a failure
cycle." Betty explained that she was continuously setting herself up for
failure. She went to college, but did not make it through the first semester.
Her first two marriages had ended in divorce and she was experiencing problems
in her third marriage. Betty wanted to improve her self-confidence and be set
free from her failure cycle. She wanted to return to college but realized that
she had to overcome her problems in order to succeed.
Betty was in therapy for ten sessions over a three month
period. In the first session, she presented her basic problem as stated above.
After listening to her talk, I told her about hypnosis; what it was and was not.
I discussed several misconceptions and answered the few questions she asked. She
was anxious to be hypnotized and believed it would help her gain self-confidence
and get her off the failure cycle. During the first hypnotic session, I
concentrated on suggestions for self-confidence and increasing self-esteem.
During a finger response in therapy, Betty indicated that
there was an emotional problem or problems that contributed to her failure. She
answered "yes" to the following questions, "Is there any conflict
over sex that contributes..?. Are you using failure to punish yourself? Do you
fail because you feel guilty about something? Is it ok with your subconscious
for you to overcome this problem and succeed?
We discussed some of the above mentioned questions and she
locked in on the question concerning sex. She mentioned that during high school
she had a number of sexual experiences with different boys. Being raised in a
North Alabama strict Bible belt religious atmosphere, she was told by her
parents that good girls did not engage in sexual activities and the girls who
did were bad girls. "They were no good and would never amount to
anything." As she was told this time and time again, she experienced guilt
because of her many sexual experiences. During her teens and throughout her
three marriages, she seldom experienced a climax during intercourse; another
example of failure.
She came to the next session very agitated. She explained
that she had become very upset at seeing an uncle at her father's funeral. As
the service proceeded, she remembered that her uncle had abused her when she was
seven. During an age regression, she had experiences of her uncle touching her a
few time since she was a baby until she was seven-year-old. All of the
experiences with the exception of the one at age seven had been pleasant, but
confusing. She experienced pain when her uncle tried to penetrate her at seven.
After that he never touched her sexually again.
In another session, Betty experienced anger toward her mother
for allowing her to be alone with her uncle on many occasions when she was
young. She felt guilt for having enjoyed the experience up to the painful
experience at age seven. In hypnosis, I asked her to look at those years through
the eyes of an adult. At the time of the incidents, her mother trusted her uncle
to take care of little Betty. I had the adult Betty take the little girl Betty
into her arms and console her. Betty could forgive the little girl for feeling
guilt about the experiences and at the same time forgive her mother for not
suspecting her uncle of wrong. As she was able to forgive the little girl of the
past, she felt better as an adult. As she forgave her mother, she was free to
develop a more loving relationship with her mother.
I then had her experience God taking adult Betty, little girl
Betty, and Betty's mother into His loving arms and forgiving each of them. This
was a very meaningful experience for Betty. As she was able to forgive herself
and her mother, she was able to experience God's forgiveness. As she was
forgiven, she no longer felt guilty, not feeling guilty, she had no further need
to be punished, therefore she was free to succeed. You may say that Betty had
done nothing in her relationship with her uncle of which she needed forgiveness.
I would totally agree with you, except in her mind, Betty needed forgiveness and
experiencing forgiveness, she could began to succeed. Betty returned to college,
earned her degree and has a good close relationship with her husband and mother.
There are real memories and there are false memories.

We have one mind but two parts: the conscious and
subconscious. The conscious and subconscious parts of the mind can be compared
to an iceberg. The portion of the iceberg above the surface of the water is the
conscious portion and the ice beneath the water is the subconscious portion. The
conscious portion consist of about 10% of our thinking ability and the
subconscious consist of about 90%.
Our conscious mind consist of what is available to our
conscious thinking process. It is the analytical, rational, logical, two plus
two is four part of the mind. The subconscious is not logical and it contains
our emotions, habits, automatic responses, feelings, instincts, impressions and
much of our memory.
One of the peculiarities of the subconscious mind is that the
subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between imagination and reality.
One day while running, I saw a long crooked object which I perceived to be a
snake. My heart beat increased, my breathing changed, and I felt fear. I was
ready to run in the other direction when my eyes focused enough to see it was a
stick. As long as I saw that stick as a snake, that is the way I reacted. In
regards to memory; a thought, image, idea whether real or not repeated often
enough or when emotionally charged becomes like a real memory to the
subconscious mind.
There are many ways to define memory and how it is retained
and how accurate it is once it brought to awareness. One of the belief is that
memory is permanent and the only problem is to get to it and bring it to
awareness. This is or probably has been the prevalent accepted idea about memory
among psychiatrists, psychologists, hypnotherapists and other in the mental
health care field. Forgetting something does not mean that the memory is gone,
it just means that memory is not available to your conscious awareness. The idea
is that memory is retained something like a video tape recorder which records
what happens and stores it in your mind. It may also be compared to a computer.
The memory is there for good or bad we are just consciously unaware of it. All
one had to do is to tap into the subconscious at the right place and time and
the memory will be available as it original occurred.
One way to get to those memories is through hypnosis.
Hypnotherapist, psychiatrist, psychologist and other therapist often use
"age regression" in their therapy. In discussing "false
memories," I am not speaking out against "age regression." I am
concerned about how we get to those memories and how they are used when
recovered. If they are used to help a person adjust to the present that is what
is desired. If the recovered memories are used to provide a client the
information to sue someone, I have a problem with that kind of therapy. Many
believe that a memory retrieved in hypnosis is true and accurate. I used to
accept this assumption, but as I come to my understanding of the subconscious
mind as previously stated, I realized that one can produce a false memory that
can seem just a real as a true memory. As therapist, we too can produce false
memories and there is evidence that the Recovered Memory Therapist have done
just that as seen in the story of Beth.
Among the Recovered Memory Therapist, one may forget what
they had for dinner ten years ago tonight and may or may not be able to get that
information even with hypnosis or drugs, but repressed memories of sexual abuse
works differently. The repressed memory of sexual abuse is said to be there in
its original form and when brought to the individual's awareness are true. It
does not matter to these people that logic and evidence points to the fact that
the memory is not true.
Some therapist believe that childhood sexual abuse is the
specific cause of numerous physical and mental problems which emerge in
adulthood. Regardless of the problem, these therapist will began to look for and
search for sexual abuse. These therapists are not discouraged to find that the
client may not remember any sexual abuse in her history. If given time, they
will help the client find the memories. I use the female pronoun because of the
thousands of patients of Recovered Memory Therapy most are women. These
therapists believe that children immediately repress all memory of sexual abuse
shortly after it occurs so that it is not available to conscious awareness until
it comes forth in therapy. I believe that some sexual abuse is repressed, but I
am convinced that generally it is a single event or perhaps a number of events
that happen very early in life such as Betty. I do not believe that a person can
be repeated abused over many years including teen years and not remember it.
When giving classes or lectures on hypnosis, I used to say
that there was no danger in the therapeutic use of hypnosis. Since studying
Recovery Memory Therapy, I have changed my presentation. I now tell people that
there is a danger when the therapist begins to insert the idea of sexual abuse
when the client denies it. I tell people that if they go to a therapist without
any recall of childhood sexual abuse and is told to read the book by Bass and
Davis The Courage to Heal" leave that office and find another
therapist.
I was first introduced to Recovered Memory Therapy about five
or six years ago. A man called me from California. He said that he had got my
name and phone number through the United Methodist Church. He had an adult
daughter in New Orleans who had sent him a letter accusing him of childhood
sexual abuse. She had recovered the memory while in therapy at a local
psych-center in New Orleans. She wrote her father requesting that he pay for her
therapy and should send her a specific amount of money each month as she was to
emotional disturbed to hold a job. She was in her forties when she began therapy
and was working and making a living. After a few months, she had recovered these
memories of sexual abuse and had steadily gotten worse.
The father denied that he had ever touched his daughter
sexual and was overcome with sadness and despair as a results of the
accusations. He ask me for help. As his daughter was receiving counseling at
another health care facility, I contacted the chaplain at that hospital to look
into the situation. I talked to the father one more time and he said that he was
trying to get an appointment with the therapist but had been unsuccessful. The
therapist keep telling him that he was in denial and that the only way the
daughter and therapist would meet with him was if he confessed that he had
indeed molested his daughter when she was a child. He asked me if I had ever
heard of the False Memory Syndrome and an organization called, "False
Memory Syndrome Foundation" which had been formed for parents of adult
children who had accused their parents of sexual abuse. I admitted that I had
not.
Dr. John F. Kihlstrom, Ph.D. describes the False Memory
Syndrome as a condition that results when the memory is distorted or
confabulated so that a person's identity and interpersonal relationships are
centered around a memory of a traumatic experience or experiences which are
false but in which the person strongly believes. Note that the syndrome is not
characterized by false memories as such. We all have memories that are
inaccurate. The syndrome is diagnosed when the memory is so deeply ingrained
that it orients the individual's entire personality and lifestyle and disrupting
adaptive behaviors. The False Memory Syndrome is especially destructive because
the person stubbornly refuses to accept any evidence that might challenge the
memory. Thus it takes on a life of its own which is resistant to any effort to
discover the truth. The person may become so focused on the memory that he or
she may be effectively distracted from coping with the real problems in his or
her life.
A few years after my contact with the father from California,
a woman come to me stating that she had been to a psychiatrist who regressed her
back to a supposed sexual molestation by her father. She was considering
confronting her father and accusing him of sexual abuse when she was a little
girl. Before confronting her father, she wanted a second opinion. Before
Recovered Memory Therapy, she had no memory of abuse and had always felt very
close to her father and was never consciously afraid of him. She had experience
a proper and appropriate amount of affection from her father and in spite of her
supposed 'recovered memory' loved him very much.
During a regression, I asked her to go back to any experience
in her past that could clarify her situation in relation to her father. She went
back to a situation that occurred when she was three years old and continued on
and off for about two years. She used to like to have her dad rock her on his
foot which she called, "riding the horsey." An activity that many
small children enjoy without any sexual content. During this time of play, she
experienced sexual pleasure and orgasms. Of the first time she experienced
sexual pleasure, she said in a childlike voice, "Daddy is holding my hands
while I ride the horsey and it feels good between my legs. Something is
happening, if feels so good, but I don't understand. The good feeling is coming
form where I pee pee."
I asked her, "Is there anyone else in the room with you
and your father? She replied, "Yes, my mama and my brother and when I get
through riding the horsey, my brother can ride." From this regression, it
appears that her father was totally innocent of any abuse and was just playing a
normal child's game with his daughter the same way that he played with her older
brother who wanted to "ride the horsey."
I then asked her if it would be alright for me to regress her
to the session with the psychiatrist and she said, "Yes." I then said,
"Go back in your mind to your session with the psychiatrist." She came
to talk to the psychiatrist about an eating problem. After taking some history,
the psychiatrist asked her if she had ever been sexually abused. She said
"No." He said "Well it is my experience that the great majority
of women with your problem was sexually abused as a child. The fact that you say
'No' indicates that you were indeed abuse and that you are in denial. You were
probably abused by your father." He lead her into a hypnotic state and
programmed her molestation. He suggested that her dad was holding her in his
lap. The psychiatrist asked, "He is placing his hand on your leg? He is
moving his hand up your leg? He putting his hand on your 'pee pee' hole. He
rubbing you 'pee pee' hole? Now tell me what it feel like and what he is
doing?" At the close of the session, he told her to buy and read The
Courage to Heal by Bass and Davis.
Following that session, I began to read everything I could on
the False Memory Syndrome. I decided that I would prepare a seminar and write an
article on "Beware of False Memories" I did this because of the pain
and harm that Recovered Memory Therapy was inflecting on clients and their
families. Aging parents accused of sexual abuse were often being sued by their
adult children because of "recovered memory" without any verification
of the reality of their abuse.
Beware of false memories because of the trauma caused to
the client who experiences these false memories. Beware of false memories because
of the hurt and pain experienced by parents who are accused. Beware of false
memories because of the damage to families that results from false memories.
Beware of false memories for your own well-being. Many families and
retractors (individuals who experienced false memories and are now refuting
those memories) are suing the therapist who developed the false memories.
A Texas District Court on February 28, 1995 found the
treating therapist, a M.S. L.P.C., guilty of negligence and that his actions
were the cause of damage to his former client, Diana Halbrooks. The complaint
stated that Ms. Halbrooks was not treated for her presenting problem but that
instead he began to convince her that she suffered from MPD and had been the
victim of childhood sexual abuse. It was alleged that the therapist was
negligent in his examination, evaluation, and treatment. The treatment provided
included improper exposure to "support" groups and to certain
therapeutic techniques which caused her to become overly dependent on her
therapist. She came to believe that the memories he created were literal
reality. By this course of treatment, the courts ruled that the therapist
created new problems and thereby caused harm to Ms. Halbrooks and her family.
Recently Gary Ramona of California won a law suit against his
daughter's therapist. After seeing a therapist about an eating disorder, Mr.
Ramona's adult daughter decided that her father raped her when she was a child.
Mr. Ramona, a vineyard executive, lost his job and his wife who came to believe
ever word of the charges produced in therapy. With deep fervor, the woman
proclaimed that mothers have a gut feeling about their children and everything
happening to them and that these gut feeling about her daughter's experience
were all the proof she needed.
Ms Ofra Bikel who produced a documentary, "Divided
Memories" for the TV program Frontline pointed out to Ms. Ramona
what she had said and then asked "You said you were happily married for 25
years, so where your gut feelings." It is interesting to note that she
mumbles a reply that the "gut feelings" like the rape memories, only
began with the visits to the therapist. Mr. Ramona became the first accused
parent to sue a therapist for implanting false abuse memories; a malpractice
suit which he won. Thanks to his daughter's accusations he lost job, his family
and has not seen his children in seven years so he ask the question, "So
tell me, what did I win?" (Gary's daughter was founded to be a virgin
during a medical examine. Can one have had intercourse and not break the hymen?
However, his daughter accused him of violating her sexually on several occasions
so the fact that her hymen was intact tends to prove that her memories were
false.
A Seattle Post article by Ellise Conklin (5/21/96) stated
that Patrice Rice, 51, sued a Washington state hypnotherapist for planting false
memories of satanic childhood abuse. She alleged that she went to the
hypnotherapist to lose weight and stop smoking. Instead, memories of sexual
abuse by satanist were implanted by her therapist through the use of hypnosis.
Rice said that she came to believe that the cult was going to kill her because
she "remembered" what they had done. As a results of these beliefs,
she drove around Oregon for two days because she thought that the cult was
following her. She caused a head-on collision when she drove across the center
line into oncoming traffic, all the while believing that a "good
witch" was "telepathically directing her to safety." A person was
killed in the accident and Ms. Rice was tried for first-degree murder. She was
found "guilty but insane." She is now free and in therapy, but will
remain under the supervision and control of the court for 20 years. Her
therapist was ordered to pay a 700,000 settlement to Ms Rice.
BURGUS V BRAUN: Arlington
Heights, IL Daily Herald.: (4 Nov 1997) A Lombard woman on Monday reached a
$10.6 million record settlement with her former psychiatrist and a Chicago
hospital over allegations she had been brainwashed into believing she was a
satanic high priestess who had abused her children and been tortured herself.
After a six-year legal battle in Cook county Circuit Court, the woman, Patricia
A. Burgus, 41, agreed to the settlement with Rush-Presbyterian-St. Luke's
Medical Center and psychiatrist Bennett G. Braun. The settlement is the largest
in the world for a case involving recovered-memory therapy, said R. Christopher
Barden, a psychologist and attorney who has been involved in about 20 similar
cases across the nation and who represented Burgus. Attorneys for Burgus said
they were prepared, if the case had gone to trial, to call on experts from
Harvard University, Johns Hopkins University and the University of California at
Berkeley in support of their case. "Psychologists have known for 100 years
that false memories can be implanted using hypnosis," Barden said. Ms.
Burgus said that she saw a video tape of a workshop by Dr. Braum in which he
told the story of her sons describing cutting open the stomachs of people during
a satanic ritual. They talked about how bad it smelled and described what it
looked like. He asked how could children so young know this if they had not seen
it? Ms. Burgus said they saw what they described in a Star Wars movie. Ms Burgus
and her children had been patients of Dr. Braum's in Rush Presbyterian Hospital.
Rush Presbyterian Dissociative Disorders Unit closed in early 1998. It was
reported that the closure comes amid mounting legal difficulties faced
nationwide by proponents of MPD therapy.
A few years ago, a new therapy system referred to as
"Recovered Memory Therapy" caught on with many professional therapist
to include psychiatrist, psychologist, social workers, ministers, counselors,
and hypnotherapist. In this group, I do not include those who use hypnosis and
other counseling techniques to discover past history that might contribute to a
present day problem and use it to help the person live better today without
destruction of others. I do not include those therapist who work with
individuals who have always remembered that they were sexually abused and are
working in the here and now to overcome any problems initiated by that abuse.
I am including those therapist who plant false
memories and encourage their clients to confront, hate, break with and sue
parents and others for something that may or may not have happened years ago.
These therapist believe that most adult problems are caused by sexual abuse
and this is especially true of women. More men are included now because of the
accusation of children sexual abuse by Catholic Priest. I conclude that most
of those accusations are true, especially those made by men who have always
remembered their abuse but would not speak of it before. I do think that most
of those who recovered memories during therapy are experiencing false
memories. An example takes us back to 1993 when 34-year-old Stephen Cook
claimed that Cardinal Joseph Bernadin had molested him as a teenage,
pre-seminary student and that he only remembered this in therapy. Many people
and especially those in the Media immediately accepted the story as true. Cook
eventually retracted his charges and came to see his memories were a product
of therapy. As the issue of priest molestation has only recently surfaced,
this chapter deals more with women who recover memories because this has been
the focus of my research.
In an article from the Cincinnati Enquire,
"Hypnosis Provides Valuable Police Tool", Janice Moore writes:
"Dr. William C. Wester acknowledges the potential for misuse of hypnosis
and doesn't hesitate to expose it. In fact, Dr. Wester discredited the
sex-abuse allegations against Cardinal Joseph Bernardin in 1994. A framed
newspaper article about the Cincinnati case hangs on Dr. Wester's office wall
at the Athenaeum of Ohio, where he directs the master of arts degree program
in pastoral counseling. Former Cincinnati seminary student Steven Cook alleged
then-Bishop Bernardin had molested him 17 years earlier. But Dr. Wester had
hypnotized Mr. Cook previously, and no sex-abuse accusations had surfaced. Dr.
Wester questioned the methods and qualifications of a Pennsylvania therapist
who had hypnotized Mr. Cook, causing the allegations to surface. Mr. Cook
backed off. Qualified practitioners employ safeguards against inaccuracies,
Dr. Wester said, including videotaping sessions, carefully wording questions
and following a script to avoid influencing the witness.
From books and other materials which I have read, a pattern
tends to occur with striking frequency. These sessions began with a client
coming to the therapist with a presenting problem other than sexual abuse.
Regardless of the presenting problem, the therapist tends to assume that if a
person has certain symptoms that is proof of childhood sexual abuse. The abuser
is usually assumed to be the father and/or perhaps the grandfather, and may also
include the mother and grandmother well as others. The symptoms that indicate
that the person has experienced sexual abuse includes but is not limited to
eating disorders, headaches, vaginal infections, sleep disorders, stomachaches,
dizziness, problems maintaining stable relationships, warring baggy clothes,
obesity, depression, or low self-esteem. Anyone may face one or more of these
symptoms during their life time, but the Recovered Memory Therapist acknowledge
only one cause: repressed memories of childhood abuse.
With this motivation, the therapist next step is to convince
the client that she was abused whether she can remember abuse or not. If the
client says she was not abused, the therapist will often respond that the denial
is another proof of her childhood sexual abuse. It is similar to the witch
trails at Salem. Those suspected of being witches were thrown into a pond. If
they floated they were guilty and burned. If they sank, they were innocent but
dead.
The client is told that only by believing in the sexual abuse
and recovering memories of abuse can she be healed. Whether the clients accepts
the diagnosis or continues to deny, they are are often encouraged to read one of
the so-called survivor's books like The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women
Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis, The
Courage to Heal Workbook by Laura Davis, Secret Survivors: Uncovering
Incest and Its Aftereffect in Women by Sue Blume, The Emotional Incest
Syndrome by Patrica Love, Repressed Memories: A Journey to Recovery From
Sexual Abuse by Rene Fredrickson, and The Sexual Healing Journal: A guide
for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Wendy Maltz and a host of other survivor
books.
Once the client is convinced that her problems can be cured
by remembering childhood memories of abuse, the therapist uses a variety of
techniques to help the client uncovered repressed memories. Among these
techniques used are hypnosis, sodium amytal, guided imagery, age regression,
progressive relaxation with suggestions, trance writing, body memory, group
survivors work and many other such therapies to get to the so-called repressed
memories.
Recovered Memory Therapy is bad therapy because it makes
assumptions that are not valid, it rewrites a persons history with very painful
results, it makes the client very dependent on the therapist, separates clients
from their natural families, it causes the client to induce some very
emotionally painful experiences which comes only from the imagination and quite
often makes the client worse instead of better.
To the question, does recovered memory therapy make clients
better or worse, I share with you some data from the Washington State Crime
Victims Compensation Program. This information was presented by Elizabeth Loftus
at the Southwestern Psychological Association meeting in Houston on April 5,
1996 A review of 183 of the approved claims were made from which 30 were
randomly selected for closer examination. Of the 30 closely examined claimants,
there were 29 women and 29 were Caucasians. The median age was 39 (15 to 67
years-old). Master-levels therapist treated 26 of the 30 people. Two patients
saw a Ph.D. therapist and two saw an M.D. For 26 of the claimants, the first
memory surfaced when they were in therapy. All of the 30 claimants were still in
therapy three years after their first memory. Eighteen of the claimants were
still in therapy five years after the first memory. Only 3 claimants thought of
suicide or attempted suicide before recovering their first memory but 20 did so
after memories. Two people had been hospitalized prior to their first memory
while 11 were hospitalized after memories started. One person engaged in
self-mutilation before memories but 8 did so after memories.
29 claimants reported memories of satanic ritual abuse (the
average age at which these memories were said to have begun was 7 months.) The
number of murders reported by this group of patients was 150. 22 patients
claimed memories of birth and infant cannibalism. 20 patients recalled memories
of being tortured with spiders and 29 remembered physical torture and
mutilation. The records of these patients showed no corroboration medical
evidence of torture or mutilation. Not one of the allegations were confirmed by
police investigations.
Two thirds (21) of the patients had graduated from high
school and seven had post high school education. Before therapy 25 had been
employed. After three years of therapy, 3 still had jobs. Before the first
memory, 23 of the patients were married. Three years after getting memories, 11
of those 23 were divorced. 100% of the patients were estranged from their
extended family. The average cost of non-repressed memory claims was $2,672
while the average cost for repressed memory claims was $12,296 (median was
$9,296). The total cost to the Crime Victims Compensation Program for this group
of 30 repressed memories was $2,533,000.
(The Courage to Heal is considered
the bible of the Recovery Memory Movement and few books written in the 20
Century have caused more unnecessary pain.)
Perhaps nothing fueled the flames of the fires of recovered
memory therapy as much as the books by survivors mentioned above. Do these books
provide good advice to help women recover memories or do they tend to implant
memories? During the twentieth century, few books have done more harm than the
Bass and Davis book The Courage to Heal which is considered the bible of
the Recovered Memory Therapy movement. Early in the book the claim is made
"If you are unable to remember any specific instances like the ones
mentioned above and still have a feeling that something abusive happened to you,
it probably did." The book continues "Often the knowledge that you
were abused starts with a tiny feeling, an intuition... Assume your feelings are
valid." Another statement to prepare the soil of the mind for implanted
memories is "If you have unfamiliar or uncomfortable feelings as you read
this book, don't be alarmed. Strong feelings are part of the healing process. On
the other hand, if you breeze through these chapters, you probably aren't
feeling safe enough to confront these issues. Or you may be coping with the book
the same way you coped with abuse - by separating your intellect from your
feeling." They have got you whether you are feeling uncomfortable or if you
are feeling nothing. Either way the authors assumes that you were sexually
abused and they will go to any lengths to recover the memories without regards
to the truth.
The authors assume that anyone reading their book was abuse
for they write, "To heal from child sexual abuse, you must face the fact
that you were abused. This is often difficult for survivors. When you've spent
your life denying the reality of your abuse, when you don't want it to be true,
or when your family repeatedly calls you crazy or a liar, it can be hard to stay
clear in the knowledge that you were abused."
The authors encourages women to separate themselves from
their "family of origin", to sue their parents, to disassociate with
anyone who does not support their claims and hate those who they discovered
abused them. The book tells of one woman who claims that she was abused by her
grandfather went to his deathbed and , in front of all the other relatives,
angrily confronted him right there in the hospital. Forgiveness may be
considered, but is not encouraged and in fact is discouraged.
I believe that forgiveness can contribute much to healing.
Habitual grudges, resentment, smoldering rage, the war within plays havoc with
our health and well-being and weakens our resistance to disease and/or emotional
illness. A recent newspaper article by a medical doctor stated more heart
trouble is caused by inner tension, guilt, and resentment than are caused by
smoking, drinking or fatty substances in the blood. We need to forgive those who
have harmed us. That does not mean that we condone what they did nor do we need
to have a close relationship to that person. By forgiving them, we release
ourselves from the power that they hold over us. We need to forgive even when
the person who has harmed us do not ask for nor deserves our forgiveness.
Whether the person is living or dead, we need to forgive in order to free
ourselves from the power that person has over us. This is true regardless of
what has happened to us including sexual, physical or emotional abuse.
I am reminded of Sandy who came to me for counseling. Sandy
was a 21 year old lady who had been sexual abused by an older brother who was
seven years older than she. She could not be freed until she could forgive him.
He had not asked her for forgiveness nor was he visibly sorry for his abuse. The
forgiving act of Sandy did not change her brother, but it did change her. After
several sessions covering many issues, she said that she was ready to forgive
her brother. I said, "In your imagination, you are setting in a chair on
the stage in front of your brother. Now prepare to forgive him even if he does
not request forgiveness nor deserves forgiveness. She said, "I forgive you
brother for the sexual things you did to me as we were growing up. I forgive you
Robert. In so doing I release myself from the power that you have had over me.
The power that made me feel guilty, has prevented me from fully enjoying sex
with my husband and has weakened my self-esteem. I am now free to live my life
joyfully." Sandy lives a much happier life and responds joyfully during
sexual relations with her husband.
In his review of The Courage to Heal for the International
Journal of Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis, Campbell Perry writes,
"Another questionable assumption is the belief in hatred as an effective
method of healing, one that holds that fantasies of castration and/or murder of
one's abuser are beneficial therapeutically... As an offshoot of the book's
advocacy of hatred as a leading method is the advice that abused individual's
"get strong by suing."...Earlier, Bass and Davis also advise that
readers "are not responsible for proving that you were abused." (Oct.
1994)
Laura Davis's book The Courage to Heal Workbook
continues with the assumption that the female child has been sexual abused and
the book is to be used to confirm that the abuse actually happened. The Workbook
goes on to encourage homosexual activities. The author is aware that a
person who has been hetero-sexual might have problems with their first
homosexual encounter, she writes, "You don't have to be physically aroused
to begin sexual activity, simply willing to begin." So what begins with the
desire to help people overcome their adult problems, becomes an attempt to
seduce the person into a different sexual life style.
Sue Blume list 34 items as "Incest Survivor's
Aftereffect Checklist." She includes such problems as ambivalence or
intensely conflicting relationships, phobias, anger, feeling crazy, feeling
different, eating disorders, fear of dark, low self-esteem, gagging sensitivity,
or even wearing baggy clothes. It is not surprising that Blume writes, "At
any given time, more than three quarters of my clients are women who were
molested in childhood by someone they knew." Most of them did not know they
were survivors until they came to Blume for counseling. She continues,
"Many, if not most, incest survivors do not even know that the abuse ever
occurred...Most survivors need many years and often many therapists, before they
can face the truths of their past"
Some, such as Patricia Love in The Emotional Incest
Syndrome, are not satisfied with the common accepted understanding of
incest. She includes those who loved their children too much and overprotected
them. "To the casual observers, the parents may appear loving and devoted.
They may spend a great deal of time with their children and lavish them with
praise and material gifts. But in the final analysis, their love is not a
nurturing, giving love - it's an unconscious ploy to satisfy their own unmet
needs."
Love has the client to ask ten question and if she answers
"yes" to three or more, that means she probably experienced incest.
(1) I was the source of emotional support for one of my parents. (2) I felt
closer to one parent than the other. (3) I got the impression a parent did not
want me to marry or move away from home. (4) Any potential boyfriend or
girlfriend was never "good enough" for one of my parents. (5) I felt I
had to hold back my own needs to protect a parent. (6) I felt responsible for my
parents' happiness.(7) I sometimes felt invaded by a parent. (8) One of my
parents had unrealistic expectations of me. (9) One of my parents was
preoccupied with drugs/alcohol, work, outside interest, or another sibling. (10)
One of my parents was my best friend. Regardless of how many "yes"
answers are given, these experience do not qualify as incest.
Renee Fredrickson in her book Repressed memories: a
Journey to Recover from Sexual Abuse writes, "Denial is overcome only
by patient growth in the opposite direction... In reading this book, whenever
you find yourself worrying 'What if I'm wrong?' try to always to ask yourself
the opposite question, 'What if I'm right?'" She ask suggestive and leading
questions such as, "How old do you think you were when you were first
abused? Write down the very first number that pops into your head, no matter how
improbable it seems to you. Does it seem too young to be true? I assure you it
is not."
Fredrickson advises, "Seat yourself comfortably and take
a few relaxing breaths before you begin the actual work. Most people prefer
doing imagery work with their eyes closed. Outside stimulation is kept to a
minimum, and you can focus all your attention on your internal reality...
Whoever is guiding the memory will ask questions to help you picture or sense
what is happening in relation to that focal point. If nothing surfaces, wait a
bit and then give your best guess in answer to the questions. If you feel
resistance or skepticism, try to go past it. Whether what is remembered around
that focal point is made up or real is of no concern at the beginning of the
process. (Durbin's impute nor at any other time, for these people the only thing
they want is an abuse memory regardless of whether it is true or not. It make no
difference to Fredrickson, but it sure does to the ones who are going to be
confronted, accused, and perhaps sued.)
In her book The Sexual Healing Journey: A guide for
Survivors of Sexual Abuse, Wendy Maltz advises readers, "Don't try to
force recall. Memories will emerge when you are you are ready to handle
them." Maltz suggest that patients "spend time imagining that you were
sexually abused, without worry about accuracy, proving anything or having your
ideas make sense. As you give rein to your imagination, let your intuition guide
your thoughts... Ask yourself or have a support person or therapist ask you
these questions, 'What time of day is it? Were are you? indoors or outdoors?
What kind of things are happening? Is there one or more person with you? Male or
female? What types of touch are you experiencing? What parts of your body is
involved? What do you see, feel or hear? What parts of your body are involved?
How do you feel emotionally? Angry, scared, excited, confused... Who would have
been likely perpetrators? When were you most vulnerable to sexual abuse in your
life? Why would it have been important for you to forget what happened."
There are many techniques that Recovered Memory Therapist use
to produce the false memories. I would like to point out that any of these
therapy with the possible exception of sodium amytal can be used very
effectively in therapy. It is not the technique that I have a problem with, but
the use of the technique. One of those techniques is hypnosis. I think that all
of us would agree that hypnosis can be extremely helpful in therapy, but it can
also be abused. Some therapist gives the impression that one cannot lie while in
the hypnotic state. Of course that is an untrue assumption for hypnosis does not
prevent a persons from intentional or unintentional lying, deception or
experiencing false memories.
In his book Suggestions of Abuse Michael Yapko
gathered data from 860 therapist (Most of those surveyed were psychiatrist or
psychologist) concerning their opinion on hypnosis. He writes, "I was
dismayed, to say the least, by what I found. It is not an exaggeration to say
that many therapist appear to practice their profession on the basis of sheer
myth." Nearly one in five believed that one could not lie under
hypnosis." Interestingly, 19% accepted the myth that "someone could be
hypnotically age regressed and get 'stuck' at a prior age." The surveyed
showed 64% "believed that hypnosis can be used in such a way as to create
false memories." But 27% did not think that hypnosis was capable of
generating false memories.
There is a case history by Dolores Spiegel and Charles Romig
which was published in the American Journal of Family Therapy that is a
good illustration of implanting of false memories. Sue entered therapy because
she was afraid that her finance would break off their engagement. She also
reported fears of the dark and had difficulty sleeping alone. She told the
therapist of dreams of being in her crib as a child and someone tickling her. In
the course of the session, she mentioned that she sometimes felt anger toward
her father but also insisted that she had a "fine and loving relationship
with him." The information received at that first session lead the
therapist to believe that Sue had been sexual abused as a child and that her
father was the likely abuser.
Because Sue continued to deny that she had been sexually
abused by her father, the therapist decided to use an indirect approach. While
Sue was in a hypnotic trance, the therapist told this story. "There was a
small kingdom with a powerful but friendly king who was well liked by his
subjects. He was very pleasant and was willing to meet with almost anyone to
talk about anything. He had a family of two sons and a daughter... It was a
happy kingdom, but something uneasy was going on in the castle. Like most kings,
this king had a wizard, who was very wise and powerful. The wizard was very
loyal to the king, which was important because the wizard had a powerful secret
word that would remove all the king's ability to rule if the wizard ever spoke
it. If the word were ever said, the king would not only lose his crown, but his
family would probably stop respecting and loving him, as would most of the
king's subjects. Only the king and the wizard knew about the magic word. Since
the king loved the wizard and needed the wisdom and power of the wizard, and
since the wizard was very loyal to the king, the king never feared that the
wizard would say the magic word. They lived happily until one day the wizard
wanted to visit other kingdoms to learn more and become a better wizard. This
frightened the king because the king was afraid the wizard might meet someone
and want to marry. The king was afraid the wizard would change loyalties to
someone else and someday might say the magic word. The king and wizard had many
arguments about this, and finally the king told the wizard to leave and return
only when the king gave permission. The king even convinced himself that he had
enough power to overcome the power of the wizard's secret word. Bitter words
were exchanged, and the entire family felt much sadness as the wizard left, for
you see, the wizard was the king's own daughter."
At the end of the session, Sue was greatly upset. At the next
session, she expressed a belief that her father might have sexually abused her
while she was a child. What was Spiegel and Romig's analysis of these sessions.
"The story gave her the option of choosing how to respond to her own
experiences, which paralleled those of the fictional characters of the story.
She choose to stop denying her victimization and approach her abuse directly,
thereby setting the stage for therapy to began." Because the father became
upset at the daughters plan to leave home and his fear of the "magic
word" which was of course "incest," the assumptions could
be that false memories were implanted by the therapist by use of the story?
I believe that a therapist can plant seeds of abuse in the
subconscious and thereby lead a client to believe and become convinced that
sexual abuse actually happened. Unfortunately, it is a fact that under hypnosis
(formal or informal) people can confabulate or create memories. These people are
often unable to distinguish between memories created in the hypnotic state and
memories held prior to the hypnotic session. While attending a meeting of incest
survivors in a San Francisco Church, Stephanie Slater tells of one young woman
who said that she remembered her mother using scissors to mutilate her
genitalia. As she wept, she concluded her talk with, "I know I should have
scars from it but I don't" Sounds like Beth who was suppose to have had
abortions by her father, but when examined by a physician was still a virgin .
Hypnosis can be misused because of the power of suggestion.
The mind, conscious and subconscious, is greatly influenced by suggestion.
Suggestion is a natural characteristic of our humanity. It can be used in
education, worship, politics, advertisements, human relationships and propaganda.
Used in the hypnotic context, suggestions are the acceptance
of an idea or belief to the point of causing changes in an individual's actions,
body responses, attitudes, emotions or characteristics. Just as anything else in
human experience, it can be used for good or bad. To show how a suggestion can
be used to produce a desired outcome, please close your eyes. With your eyes
closed and using your imagination, I am going to ask you two questions and
notice your responses. "Do you see the bird?" Now let that though go
and respond to this question, "Do you see a bird?" Let that thought go
and open your eyes. What was your experience as a response with the first
question? What was your response to the second question. What was the difference
between the two questions. The first presupposes a bird, "Do you see the
bird?" That question suggest that a bird is to be seen. The second question
leaves for you determine if a bird is seen. But truthfully, both bring to mind a
bird. A Recovered Memory Therapist may ask, "Do you see his penis?" or
"Do you see a penis?" both questions are very suggestive of a penis
being present.
Another technique for the Recovered Memory Therapist is the
use of guided imagery. Mark Pendergrast in his book Victims of Memory wrote
of a recovered memory patient who told this story. My Therapist "made me
visualize a safe place. It was like a ring and I would lie down in the middle of
it. She'd talked to me through a guided imagery, with this really soothing
voice. 'Now just imagine that you're this little girl in the white sweater.
Imagine you're a helpless, vulnerable, defenseless little girl.' I told her how
I used to go to a day care center and lie under the piano, staring up at it. So
she took me back to the scene. I was totally seeing all of this as she said it.
'Are you scared?' She asked, and I found that I was. 'Do you see somebody?' I
saw this piano repair man. 'Does he come and sit by you?'"
"And then suddenly I visualized him lying on top of me.
Tricia was really silent at this point, letting me live this scene. I imagined
this man taking off my pants and sweater and totally licking me and kissing me
from my crotch to my neckline." Though the patient had said nothing, The
therapist asked, "is he hurting you?" "Yes, yes,' I whispered.
Then I opened my eyes and screamed, Stop, stop! I want out of this. Tricia was
calm, really calm, and she was smiling. I grabbed my stuff. I was hyper
ventilating. She said, 'If you need to stay here a minute and settle down,
that's fine. But I have another client coming.' As I walked out the door, she
said, 'You're probably going to feel self-destructive, because flashbacks are
really hard. So call me at any time. (Durbin, The therapist gave the client a
suggestion for a flashback which is totally irresponsible and unethical.)
"Eventually, I came to believe that six men had abused
me, including my grandfather, Dad and my brother Jerry. Tricia would take a real
incident and help me turn it into something awful. 'Olivia, remember when you
and your brother were fighting downstairs, She said during one guided imagery
session. 'He throws you up against the wall. What is he doing?'. 'Now I'm on the
ground.' 'Is he on the ground too? I said, 'Oh my God, we're rolling around on
the ground together.' And then I saw him raping me. That night I went home and
cut all my long, curly hair off, my pride and joy. I think I wanted to punish
myself for thinking this about my brother."
Some Recovered Memory therapist use sodium amytal commonly
called "truth serum" which can produce hallucinations that can seem as
real as a true experience. People given sodium amytal have given details of
their history such as events, places, names and dates that were not true. As
with hypnosis, the individual is more susceptible to suggestions while under the
influence of sodium amytal Patients under the influence of sodium amytal fail to
reliably discriminate between reality and fantasy.
The use of dreams to uncover false memories is not uncommon
among Recovered Memory Therapist. To me it is not surprising that ideas,
thoughts, readings, that a person deal with all day long can show up in some
form during a dream. Remember that the key which set off Beth's therapist toward
recovered memories was a dream in which Beth and friends were being raped as her
father looked on and did nothing to stop the attacks?
Recovered Memory Therapists use automatic writing or journal
writing to help their clients recover memories. The client is encouraged to just
began to write down anything that comes to mind without concern for sentence
structure. While the client thinks of insect, she is to write down anything that
comes to mind while they think of incest. Another use of automatic writing is to
just write down a story of insect concerning the client without concern for it
being real or imagined. The client is to write the story as quickly as possible.
Fredrickson states "The unconscious can be relied on to select traumatic
incidents from your past for most or all of the 'story' since it is easier to
rely on experience rather than imagination when you do something quickly."
The use of these techniques suggest that memories are there and they are just
waiting for the right time to come up, but are they real or false?
Fredrickson also recommends the use of art therapy. Art
therapy assesses two types of unconscious memory which are acting-out memory
(forgotten memories spontaneously and physically enacted) and imagery memory
(memory that appears in the conscious mind as images). With art work the client
can trigger the recovery of repressed memories.
Body memories are described as memories which are retained in
body cells as well as in the brain. During the years before language is fully
developed, memories are stored in the body's cells. They believe that physical
and emotional problems of adulthood can be the results of the body's memories of
childhood sexual abuse. As with symptoms, dreams, art work, the notion of the
bodies memories becomes a means of indoctrination into recovered memories.
A client is often told to join a survivors therapy group so
that she can realize that she is not the only one who has been abused and that
she can receive help from the group. A therapy group for people who have always
remember their abuse can be beneficial if the group is there to help each other
deal with present life situations. For individuals without memories of sexual
abuse, these groups are deceptive, dangerous, and another means of implanting
memories. In many recovered memory groups, the members try to out do the other
in their descriptions of abuse and they encourage those who have no memories to
get out of denial and remember.
There is a concerted effort to make the patient experience
the emotional pain of rape, sexual abuse and other horrible experiences through
abreaction. They have the client relive the supposed abuse and thereby releasing
its power. (Most hypnotherapist use abreaction as a releasing technique, but
most of the time the therapist will have the patient distant themselves from the
pain and view the experience from a safe place or as if it were on a TV screen.)
The Recovered Memory Therapist persuades their clients to literally feel the
pain of the rape and torture and the humiliation of their supposed experiences.
In their book Making Monsters, Richard Ofshe and Ethan
Watters state, "Therapist sometimes induce these abreaction weekly over
years of therapy. In describing the intense torment they subject their patients
to, therapists often portray themselves as if they were heroic doctors who could
save their patients' lives only by performing amputations without
anesthesia." The authors continue, "Although we don't suggest that
these recovered memory therapist take sexual pleasure from these abuse
'recreations,' some recovered memory therapist perhaps deserve recognition as a
new class of sexual predator."
Anger and rage are encouraged by Recovered Memory Therapist. The
Courage to Heal has a chapter "Anger-The backbone of Healing" and
the client is advised, "Whether you express your anger directly to the
abuser or you work with it yourself, it's essential that you give it some
outlet. You can speak out, write letters (ether to send or purely for the chance
to get your feelings out), pound on the bed with a tennis racket, break old
dishes, scream (get a friend to scream with you), create an anger ritual (burn
an effigy on the beach), take a course in martial arts, visualize punching and
kicking the abuser where you do aerobics, volunteer at a recycling center and
smash glass, dance an anger dance. The list is endless. You can be creative with
your anger, And ultimately, you can heal with anger."
Some quotes from the the book are "I have such venomous
hate. I pray to God that [my father] comes down with some terrible disease. I'd
like him to get AIDS. That or Alzheimer's. I can't wait for his funeral ...this
hatred affects me in a positive way" "I'd watch Perry Mason to
get ideas about how to kill my father. It was really the best of times. Every
day I would get a new method."
"I'd like to cut off his little huevos (penis).
I've had offers from people who said they'd go with me." "As a child
... you could not think about killing your father when you relied on him to feed
you." "I go through real revenge periods. I imagine walking into my
parents' house with a shotgun aimed right at my father's balls. "Okay, Dad.
Don't move an inch. Not one step, you sucker. I'm gonia take 'em off one at a
time. And I'm gonna take my sweet time about it, too.'" "If your
abuser has died, you may be glad he is dead. This is a perfectly reasonable
feeling to have. One woman said she couldn't wait for her father to die so she
could spit on his grave." These are statement of women who have gone
through recovered memory therapy and their memories may well be false.
The client is encourage to have a confrontation with their
abuser and/or abusers This is usually done in the therapist office with strict
guidelines. Supported by the therapist and perhaps others, the client generals
reads from a prepared statement. They lists a variety of accusations such as
"you molested me when I was six months old, you raped me when I was four
until I was seventeen. Mother you let it happen. You did nothing to stop him and
in fact you assisted him and molested me also."
The parents are not allowed to challenge the accuser and if
they say that the abuse never occurred, they are accused of being in denial.
Sometimes the accusations are made over the telephone or in a letter with
similar letters written to other family members and friends. During these
confrontations there is usually a demand for the parents to pay for therapy and
additional sums of money for the pain they caused the survivor. If they don't
get what they want from the confrontation, they quite often sue and most of the
so-called survivors books encourage them to do so.
Flashbacks are a common occurrence for clients of Recovered
Memory Therapist. In an article for The International Journal of Clinical and
Experimental Hypnosis (Oct 1994) Dr. Fred H. Frankel states that flashbacks
are unbidden, often vivid, images that occur while the patient is awake. The
images are usually reported as having a haunting quality, distressing to the
patient. They may recur again and again. The patient often relates the origin of
the flashback to an earlier frightening experience.
The term "Flashback" was popularized by the
Haight
Asbury drug scene where individuals who had been on drugs would flashback
unexpected and similar to the drug experience. Later the term was to describe
the experience of some Vietnam veterans who had flashbacks of some situation
they experienced during the war. Many trauma patients such as victims of crime,
combat, accidents, or other emotionally charged events can experience
flashbacks. Do these flashback always reflect an actual experience?
Dr. Michael Yapko begins his book Suggestions of Abuse by
telling the story a man who told his wife that he simply couldn't deal
with the scars remaining from Vietnam. In more than twenty years of marriage,
there had been plenty of episodes that led her to believe him. One night, he
went berserk, apparently in reaction to the sneakers she happened to be wearing.
After he calmed down, he told her that he had been a prisoner for fifteen days
after a carried-based F-4 jet fighter on which he was navigator was shot down.
His Vietcong captors wore similar sneakers when they came to the bamboo cage in
which he was keep prisoner. They regularly beat and degraded him by urinating on
him. He said he escaped after strangling a guard, who, incidentally, was wearing
the same kind of sneakers.
He finally went to see a therapist for his problems,
describing in detail his terrible experiences in Vietnam and his pervasive
symptoms. He was diagnosed as suffering from "posttraumatic stress
disorder" and was treated for severe depression, extreme guilt, and
explosive anger. Treatment did not help quickly enough, however. Less than three
years later, he ended his troubled life by inhaling carbon monoxide.
After his death, his wife attempted to get his name placed on
the state's Vietnam memorial, declaring him a casualty of the war as surely as
if he'd died overseas. His therapist wrote a letter in support of her petition.
Only then was his background researched. How could anyone have known that he had
never been to Vietnam? (p. 15)
Among many stories told by Eileen Franklin of how she
recovered memories of her father, George, raping and killing her friend years
before was from a flashback. She told her brother that she recalled the incident
while under hypnosis. She told her sister that the she became aware of the
killings from a dream. At her father's trail, she told the jury that she had
remembered the murder during a flashback triggered by when looking at her own
daughter's face. Based upon Eileen testimony of the recovered memory, George was
convicted of murder and sent to jail.
Recovered Memory Therapist encourages clients to give up
their natural families to included any relatives who does not agree with the
client concerning the alleged abuse. The authors of The Courage to Heal suggest
that one should separate themselves from the cause of their problems which in
their terms is "the family of origin." Their tendency is to picture
the family as poison for the client and destructive to the client. Fathers,
grandfathers, brothers, uncles and added to that list; mothers, grandmothers,
sisters, and aunts who either participated in the abuse, allowed it to happen
without interfering, or did not believe the accusation of the survivor.
I share with you a "before therapy" letter and an
"after therapy" letter to parents as printed in the False Memory
Syndrome Foundation Newsletters, (before therapy) Mom and Dad, Hi, just
thought I would drop you a line to say 'hi.' I have been so busy lately that I
have forgotten to tell you guys how much I love you. You two have done so much
for me...You have continually supported me, loved me, and helped me work through
my various problems and adventures... I just wanted you guys to know that you
are appreciated. I seldom tell you how I feel or how much you guys mean to
me. I
love you more than words can say. Love, your daughter."
(After therapy) "Dear First Names, Why am I writing this
letter: To state the truth - Dad I remember just about everything you did to me.
Whether you remember it or not is immaterial - what's important is I remember. I
had this experience the other day of regressing until I was a little child just
barely verbal. I was screaming and crying and absolutely hysterical. I was
afraid that you were going to come get me and torture me. This is what sexual
abuse is to a child - the worst torture... I experienced what professionals call
a 'body memory.' My body convulsed for hours - the pain started in my vagina and
shot up and out of my mouth... I felt I was a small child being brutally raped.
I knew I was remembering what I had experienced as child... I asked who could
have done such a thing - initially I thought Mom, since I had a vague dream
about her - but that did not fit - then I blurted out, 'Oh my God, my father
repeatedly raped me'... I needed your protection guidance and understanding.
Instead I got hatred, violation, humiliation and abuse... I don't have to
forgive you... I no longer give you the honor of being my father.. I'm not the
victim anymore..." As the letter ended, I wonder if she was not the victim
of an overzealous Recovered Memory Therapist!
Pamela Freyd, Ph.D., whose husband was accused of the abuse
by their adult daughter, Jennifer, is the Executive Director of the False Memory
Syndrome Foundation. The Foundation's Scientific and Professional Advisory Board
is composed of prominent researchers and clinicians from the field of
psychiatry, psychology, social work, and education. The Foundation provides
information on memory and therapy practices. It advises and is a sounding board
for accused parents. It acts as a clearing house for information, puts families
in touch with resources which enables them to better cope with their situation,
built a library used by scholars, attorneys, families, and the media, and
produces a very good and informative Newsletter that keep thousands
informed on issues of interest to therapist, families and others.
About 20% of adults who remembered childhood sexual abuse
while undergoing Recovered Memory Therapy eventually recalled being victims of
satanic ritual abuse (SRA). A recent survey funded by the US government stated
that among 6,900 psychiatrists, psychologist, and social workers; 70% had never
seen an SRA client, most of the rest had handled one or two, but l.4% had over a
100 cases. Much of the current beliefs about satanic ritual abuse goes back to
four books: Michelle Remembers, Satan Seller, Satan's Underground, and He
Came to Set the Captive Free. All of these books were written by authors who
claimed to be either victim or perpetrator. The most influential of the four is Michelle
Remembers by Dr. Lawrence Pazder and Michelle Smith. SRA survivors have
similar memories of abuse. They remember evil, robe-covered adults, candles,
knives, an altar and countless horror stories of being breeders, having to kill
their babies and eat the babies, of being put in graves with snakes and spiders,
and other such experiences.
The adult victim generally begins therapy for a seemingly
unrelated problem such as a sleep or eating disorder, depression, or marital
difficulties. During the course of treatment, the therapist will raise the
possibility of repressed memories of SRA. At first the client usually deny a
past history of SRA but after many session of intensive therapy, the client will
gradually develop a complex personal SRA history. Usually the therapist decides
that the repression was facilitated by a dissociative state and thus diagnosis
multiple personality disorder (MPD). After more long term, intensive therapy and
support group involvement, including "abreacting," or
"reliving" each of the traumatic "memories," the Recovered
Memories Therapist may help the patient to integrate her personalities and be
healed.
For many years policeman, Randy Emon believed in SRA and
conducted presentations on the validity of satanic crimes. As time went by and
due to the continued lack of hard evidence of SRA, he changed his mind and
position. Over the years, he interviewed a large number of abuse survivors. One
common link was that each had emotional problems and sought counseling from a
therapist. After lengthy counseling, each person was eventually diagnosed as a
breeder, a survivor, or a ritual abuse victim. Most were also diagnosed as
having MPD. During his interviews, he asked each alleged survivor for any
physical evidence supporting the allegations, but not one could provide any
evidence.
After analyzing the interviews, he observed a common pattern
of symptoms and behavior. (1) Satanic cult survivors could not remember any
specific details of abuse until they sought professional counseling for existing
emotional problems. Subsequently, the therapist discovered the patient had been
an unwilling victim of satanic cult rituals. (2) Satanic cult survivors had
initially developed bad dreams, unusual paranoia and other emotional ailments
causing them to seek professional counseling. (3) Almost all satanic cult
survivors experienced therapist-assisted regression hypnotherapy or
visualization techniques to aid in memory recall. (4) Many satanic cult
survivors claimed that they were sexually used for breeding purposes. (5) Many
claimed to have been impregnated but their child was killed as part of a ritual
ceremony. (6) Once the satanic cult survivors believed their recalled accounts,
they struggled emotionally for credibility of their belief from their
counselor/therapist or others because no one could provide concrete evidence of
the occurrence of the abuse.
The Recovery Memory Therapy Movement has many cult-like
qualities. Webster's Unabridged Dictionary definition of cult is a group with a
"devoted or extreme attachment to or extravagant admiration for a thing or
ideal, especially as manifested by a body of admirers; any system for treating
human sickness that employs methods regarded as unorthodox or
unscientific." Generally a cult will claim to be the only way to God,
Nirvana, Paradise, healing, and such. Some characteristics of a cult are: (1)
Their leader's may claim a special revelation. The therapist is the leader and
develops a situation where the client depends upon on them for salvation. (2)
They believe that they have the whole truth. Everyone is a victim and needs to
recovery the memories of abuse in order to be whole. (3) They use intimidation
or psychological manipulation to keep members loyal to their truth. If one says
she experienced no childhood sexual abuse, she is said to be in denial. (4)
Members will be expected to give substantial support. The cost of therapy is
high and can go on for years. (5) There is great emphasis on loyalty to the
group and its teachings. The client must accept the diagnosis of the leader and allow
herself to discover the repressed memories of abuse. (6) Members are encouraged
go give up their natural families for the family of the cult. The survivors
group is to take the place of the family of origin and the family of origin must
be denounced.(7) Members will look to their leaders for guidance in everything
they do. During treatment the client becomes overly dependent on their
therapist. (8) Any questioning of the group's teaching is discouraged. If she suggest that
she has no sexual abuse history, the group ridicules her and say
that she is in denial. (9) Attempts to leave may be met with threats. The
client is told that she can never heal until she has dealt with her abuse
and can make it on her own.
You may ask, "Why would anyone believe so painful and
horrible experiences as insect if it did not really happen?" Some reasons
for believing are: (1) The Therapist is the authority and the client is told her
that childhood sexual abuse is the cause of her problems. (2) Recovered memories
of sexual abuse give the client a reason for her problems. (3) Because doubting
is considered proof of "denial" and resistance to getting well. (4)
Because focusing on the abuse gives her a reason for her experience of parental
neglect and emotional abandonment. (5) The recovered memory provides a
compelling and guilt-free reason for separating from one's family. (6) It is
less painful to blame others than to examine one's own personal feelings and
work through the problems to a more meaningful life. (7) While using hypnosis,
guided imagery and other techniques; the therapist implants false memories of
sexual abuse into the mind of the client which seem real.
The case of Lynn Gondolf has been reported in a number of
books and writings on False Memory Syndrome is an prototype of many who have gone
to Recovered Memory Therapist. Lynn came to her therapist with an eating
disorder and was asked if she had been sexually abused as a child. From the
beginning of therapy, Lynn told her therapist at the age of six, she had been
sexually abused by an uncle. That was not enough for the therapist who keep
insisting that her parents must have been involved in the abuse. The therapist
said, "All I want you to do is think about it. Try to imagine the scene in
your mind. Your were a little girl, just six years old, going off with your
uncle for several for several hours and coming back dirty, sweaty, probably
scared to death. You must have cried, acted out, misbehaved, clung to your
mother. Do you really think they didn't know something was wrong? Just think
about it, Lynn. Keep trying to remember exactly what happened."
The therapist continued to use relaxation, deep breathing,
imagery, and hypnosis to help her recover the memory of sexual abuse by her
parents. Finally Lynn said, "Maybe your right. Maybe they did know."
The therapist then states "Now that we know that they knew and we know they
did nothing to stop it, don't we have to wonder: Could they have been a part of
this? Is it possible that you were also abused by your father or mother, or
perhaps both."
Time and time again, Lynn tried to get her therapist to work
with her to overcome her eating disorder, but the therapist insisted that the
recovery of abuse was the only way to healing. In regards to Lynn's binging and
purging, the therapist said, "You're trying to vomit up a flashback....
Once you remember the truth about your past, the need to purge yourself will
stop and your eating disorder will gradually fade away." Lynn responded
"My mother and father never touched me." The therapist responded,
"Lynn, Lynn, your symptoms are too severe and long-lasting to be explained
away by your uncle's abuse, as awful as that was...I believe there must be
something else back there in your past, something much, much worse that you have
not been able to face...Something in your past is trying to make itself known.
Keep listening waiting, watching, imaging. The memories will come." and the
did.
Following a guided imagery of her father raping her, she
began having flashback of her father raping her. The therapist began to included
her mother in the guided imagery and memories of her mother joining in the abuse
come to her.
The therapist had her bring her parents to therapy so that
she could confront them. When they denied that the accusations, they were told
that they were in denial. Whenever Lynn began to doubt her memories, she was
told that she was in denial. She was part of group therapy with other survivors.
They spent hours discussing how they were abused when they were children. The
members of the group tended to have similar flashbacks and incorporated parts of
each others stories into their own story. She went from an independent woman to
one who was extremely dependant on her therapist and group. The massive doses of
drugs, the preoccupation with sexual abuse, the paranoia inspired by her
therapist, the mass hysteria of the group worked together till she had to be
admitted to the hospital.
After a length stay in the hospital one of the psychiatrist
checked her out saying to her, "You don't belong in this institution."
and advised her to go home and get on with her life. After a short time back
with her old therapist, she had run out of money, could not afford her
medication, and so entered a drug rehabilitation program. They were not
interested in Lynn's childhood abuse so much as they wanted her to meet the
problems of today. She said, "I'd not had therapy like that before. In my
incest victimization therapy, I'd been taught that...if I felt bad, I'd stay
home. I'd stay in bed all day. I'd take an extra Xanex. I didn't have to be
responsible...because I'm an incest victim. Because all of these awful things
that happened to me I didn't have to live by the same rules the rest of you all
do." While in drug rehab, Lynn began to realize that her memories were
false. She stopped seeing her Recovered Memory Therapist, she left her therapy
group, quit take medication, and she got on with her life. She realized that her
therapy had created her trauma rather than abuse by her father and mother
because that abuse never happened.
Some guidelines for therapist: (1) If the therapist is going
to bring up the possibility of sexual abuse, it should be part of the patient
history intake information and should be one question among many. The question
may be "Were you sexually abused as a child?" If the answer to that
question is "No." accept the answer. (2) Do not diagnosis sexual abuse
based on the client's symptoms. (3) A therapist should not assume that sexual
abuse has occurred because a person has periods from her past that she can not
remember. (3) Be aware of how you word questions or suggestions so that you do
not lead a person to have false memories. (4) Be aware that because of books,
TV/radio programs, magazines articles and newspaper articles that false memories
may have already been planted before the client come to you. (5) Understand that
memory can be distorted even when the person is in a hypnotic state. (6) Work
toward coping with life in the here and now rather than focusing on the past
especially with repeated emotionally reliving painful experiences whether real
or false. (7) Do not put a client without clear and detailed memories of abuse
into a survivors therapy group and then only if the group deals with adjusting
to the world in the here and now. (8) Do not advise a client to read The
Courage to Heal or any other book written by a so-called survivor. (9) Be
careful when using progressive relaxation, suggestions, guided imagery,
hypnosis, or other hypnotic like states that you do not give leading suggestions
of abuse. (10) Be certain that you are not meeting some sexual need of your own
by helping your client come to share with you sexual abuse whether real or
false.(11) If you were sexually abused as a child, do not assume
that everyone else was abused also. (12) Question your motives before you suggest that a client
confront and separates from her natural family. (13) Do no harm. Continue to use hypnosis to help others come to terms with
life and thus live a better life, but beware of false memories.
   
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